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Interview with Monica Ten-Kate from
"Monica The Medium" on ABC Family 8/18/15
ABC Familyís Q&A with Monica Ten-Kate
Monica the Medium
Moderator: When did you first realize you were a medium?
Monica: I was intuitive and impassive growing up, but it
really wasnít until high school that I started to realize
that this is not just things Iím feeling and hearing, but
there are dead people around me. I was able to see that I
had this gift and when youíre in high school, youíre already
dealing with a lot of other things to try to fit in and you
want to be normal, so it was hard for me. I still suppressed
my gift, out of fear of what people and what my classmates
would think, so I only told some of my closest friends, but
when I started college, I realized I needed to be true to
myself. I came out as a medium and Iíve been doing it
publically ever since.
Moderator: What did it feel like when you realized you were a
Monica: When I first realized that what I was experiencing
was coming from Spirit, I went through like every stage of
emotion I think [laughs]. Like when you start to first
experience it, it can be a little bit fearful just because I
remember going to bed thinking ďI donít want to see
anything, I donít want to hear anything, I donít want to
smell anythingĒ because itís so unfamiliar. Once I started
to have more experience and start passing on messages, I
realized what a beautiful gift this is and that itís not a
scary thing. Itís a very peaceful, happy and great
experience to have, but I still went through different
emotions that, of course, just me being a rational person in
general, I was even skeptical. I was skeptical of myself
when I first started doing this work and connecting to
Spirit. I thought it could be a coincidence, or a lucky
guess. I was doubting it because even to this day youíre
still thinking ďOh my goodness!Ē Itís so crazy to wrap your
mind around, but the more and more that I did it, the more I
realized, okay this is not a coincidence, this is definitely
Spirit and thereís no question.
Moderator: Where was the craziest place youíve done a reading
and what was your craziest encounter during a reading?
Monica: The most interesting encounter that Iíve had was in a
steam room at the gym, where I delivered a message
spontaneously through the fog and steam, and we were in
towels [laughs]. That was probably the craziest encounter as
far as location goes, but I would say that every reading has
something distinct and special and memorable about it. I do
try to release all the information, memory and energy after
every session or it would just be too much, too draining and
too emotional to be carrying around all those feelings,
emotions and messages after every reading. I donít really
remember the nitty-gritty of every reading, but I do know
that thereís something special about every connection.
Moderator: Who was your first Spirit that you encountered?
Monica: Thatís actually a tricky question [laughs]. The first
Spirit that I really knew and felt was in high school. I had
a friend of mine who had lost her mom in third grade, and
every time Iíd be around her, Iíd get emotional, Iíd get
choked up, and at first I wasnít really sure why. Every time
she would tell stories of her childhood and share memories
of her mom, I would just hear the ending of the story before
sheíd even finished telling it. After a few months, I
decided to tell her all the things that I would be hearing
or feeling, and I would repeat the message and sheíd start
crying asking ďHowíd you know that about my mom?Ē since no
one else knew about it. So that was the first Spirit that I
ever really communicated with.
Moderator: Do you have to be in contact with a person to do a
reading for them, or do you contact Spirits without people
Monica: For the most part, I have to at least be
communicating with that client or with the person and hear
their voice in order to really start to hear and feel Spirit
come through. We could be talking about the weather for all
that matters, but I just need to have some connection.
Communicating and hearing their voice is usually the switch
for me to start feeling and hearing their loved ones.
Occasionally, there will be instances where I could be
texting with a friend and then all of a sudden I get that
overwhelming emotion and Iíll tell them what Iíll be hearing
or feeling about their loved ones. So, there are
occasionally times where it happens randomly, but for the
most part I have to be talking to them.
Moderator: Has there ever been an encounter with a Spirit
that scared you?
Monica: There has never been an encounter with Spirit that
scared me. I am very clear with people that Iím a Spirit
medium and not a ghost buster or paranormal activity person.
I donít go through haunted houses and things like that, but
there have been occasions where I went into a home or an
apartment, where even though I do not connect to that
energy, I might feel a presence of something that is a bit
more earthbound and not somebody who is in heaven. I think
for the most part, Iím not scared of it, but I can get
uneasy. But I know how to protect myself and I say a little
prayer to the angels. Youíll see this actually in one of the
episodes of Monica the Medium. I actually check out the
apartment of one of my friends and her roommates after they
felt like they had a ghost there. So, youíll see how I react
to that kind of feeling with that kind of thing.
Moderator: Have you met any of the Pretty Little Liars cast
Monica: Yes! I obviously met Ian Harding because we did live
tweeting together for one of the PLL episodes which was
amazing. It made my summer! So Iíve met Ian, and Iíve met
Shay Mitchell, who Iíve seen twice now. We ran into each
other getting lunch the other day, which was cool, and then
I met her at the TCA press day and I met Janel Parrish at
TCA as well. Iíve also met Marlene King, the creator of
Pretty Little Liars. Iíve met quite a few, which was very
Moderator: Can you connect with animals or do readings for
any pet owners about their pets?
Monica: Iíve had clients ask to schedule a reading who have
told me they havenít lost anyone close except for a pet and
want to connect with their pets, but for me it doesnít come
through as often in the readings. They do come through and
sometimes spontaneously, like somebodyís dog or cat will
come through, but for the most part, itís something that
will come in supplemental. I wouldnít schedule a reading
just for themó it would come up naturally in a reading where
theyíre already talking to other loved ones because their
dad or their brother or their grandfather whoís passed might
be telling them that theyíre with the dog. Itís interesting
where animals do come through and communicate just like the
people Iím communicating to.
One of the strongest readings Iíve ever done was with a
woman over Skype actually. She lost her cat, and I asked if
she would call her cat Mr. W, and she lost it. That was what
she called her cat, Mr. W. I told her I felt like she was
with him from the moment this cat was born and the moment
that he passed. Then the craziest thing that I was nervous
to say because Iíve never had a cat and itís not part of my
frame of reference, but I told her that her cat was showing
me a wooden box and it says Mr. W and I described the box to
a tee, and I told her heís telling me that she cremated him
and his ashes are in this box which I had described. She
turns around because she was at her desk and pulls open a
drawer and pulls out the box that I had described that her
catís ashes are in and she says ďIíve never posted about
this, Iíve never told anyone about it, no one knows what
this box looks like,Ē and it was amazing. So, there are
definitely times that animals come through quite strong.
Moderator: Besides being a medium, what are you studying in
college and hoping to do after you graduate?
Monica: Iím a communications and PR major, and I joke around
that Iím a bit busier with the different kinds of
communication [laughs], but that is my college degree that
Iím working on. After college, I still plan to be doing my
work as a medium full time. I always say I plan to be doing
this work connecting to Spirit until the day that I die, but
whether or not, maybe 20 years from now, maybe one day, I
will want to be a stay at home mom for a bit and have a
family or do other things and take a little break from doing
this as a career. But that doesnít mean I would stop doing
it and sharing my gift out and about.
Moderator: Have you also done any readings with other mediums
Monica: I actually have. We call it a medium trade, where you
give a reading for another medium and then theyíll give you
a reading, so you just do it free for each other. I always
say that Spirit comes through strongest for those who need
it the most, not necessarily who want it the most and I
donít really need it because I know how much theyíre around.
People always ask can you connect to your own loved ones and
I canít because theyíre too close to me. I canít communicate
with them the same way I communicate to everybody elseís
loved ones, but that doesnít mean I donít see the signs and
symbols, the hellos from heaven, songs on the radio,
butterflies, all those things. I still feel that connection
and know theyíre around me.
Moderator: How did you get involved with the show Monica the
Medium and why did you decide to continue with it?
Monica: Itís actually a long and crazy story, but the way I
got into TV is probably one of the coolest parts of this
whole thing. I was not looking, trying or asking for these
opportunities. I didnít do anything really to get the TV
show; it landed in my lap, and the fact that I didnít try or
go out of my way by any means, was a sign from Spirit and
the angels that I was supposed to be open to opportunity.
About a year and a half ago, three different producers from
different production companies unrelated from each other,
found me in random ways and all reached out to me asking to
have a casual conversation and all asked to set it up the
same Friday, back-to-back-to-back. I noticed that Spirit
made it loud and clear that Iím supposed to at least be open
to it. So, from there things just went on to me flying out
[to L.A.] to have meetings, and then I signed with Lionsgate.
I always said from day one that if I was going to do a TV
show, I would only do it if it was with ABC Family, and
everyone told me not to get my hopes up. But I just had a
feeling that I was going to have a TV show with ABC Family
and here we are now, so itís been pretty amazing.
Moderator: Does your gift as a medium interfere at all with
your social life and in your studies?
Monica: It definitely does. Iím learning more and more how to
try to juggle and balance everything. Back in high school,
where youíre just trying to get through and be a regular
girl, youíre already struggling with a lot of other things
and you want to be the one to fit in and be normal. But for
me, once I was in college, I decided Iím not going to care
what people think, Iím just going to come out and Iím going
to be loud and proud that Iím a medium and this is what I
do. That doesnít mean that everybody responds in the perfect
way or in the nicest way. Especially around college boys.
Itís hard sometimes to even say ďHi, Iím Monica,Ē at a party
and then tell them how I talk to dead people, especially
when itís with a guy that youíre flirting with or one that
youíre interested in. Some may take that as like a red flag
or think Iím crazy. Itís definitely a bit hard and I think
socially you want to fit in. This is a very unique thing
that is very different than everybody else at school. But I
think more and more people are realizing once they have the
experience or they witness that I do have this gift and how
beautiful it really is, they realize I am just like
everybody else. Iím not some weirdo with a crystal ball; Iím
Moderator: How is your show going to be different from other
medium shows on television like Long Island Medium?
Monica: It differs in a couple of ways. Monica the Medium
will be hour-long episodes, and the biggest difference is
that it truly shows just as much of me just being Monica as
it does me being Monica the Medium. I know with other shows
like Long Island Medium, it does show her being a mom and
shows that part of her life, but I really think with our
series it takes it to the next level of everything thatís
going on in my life, whether itís from my day-to-day like
dating, being with my friends, pulling all-nighters, things
for school, hanging out with my roommates, bickering over
whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher, to seeing my
family. All the aspects that are going on and around me in
my life on top of being a medium and connecting with Spirit.
I think that whatís great about it. Thereís something that
everybody can relate to. Thereís some people who maybe
havenít really had a significant loss in their life, but
theyíll relate to going on a date with a guy and being
really nervous getting ready for it. So, I think thereís
something that everybody can relate to.
Moderator: How long did it take for you to get used to being
Monica: [The] first episode, was our first experience with
having a camera crew follow us around and film all these
readings. I had done events and larger group readings and
things like that, but it is definitely the first time where
Iím not just the only one being vulnerable and open to all
these other people being around and watching me as I connect
to Spirit. Itís the first time that my clients or the people
that Iím reading are also having to be very vulnerable and
open to that experience and allowing it to be shared with so
many. I was definitely pretty nervous and it was out of my
element at the beginning, so youíll kind of see the
difference as the episodes progressóeven just by episode
two. I got so used to it after about a week and a half to
two weeks, the crew became like family to me. The readings,
my everyday life and just going out and about, everything,
was so much more natural and comfortable and I truly forgot
the cameras were around and it kind of faded in the
background and I just wouldnít notice.
Moderator: Have you ever done a reading for one of the crew
Monica: Itís funny; at the beginning of production I made a
pact with Spirit telling them itís going to be a little
tricky if every time Iím giving a reading or connecting to
Spirit, some of the crewís people start to creep in, because
that would just be too much [laughs]. It would be too
overwhelming, so I asked everybody from the crew and their
loved ones in Spirit to please back up or give me the space
so I can do my job because it can be hard sometimes. Once
you open the door to Spirit itís like everybody wants to
come through whoís around you, and so, for the most part
Spirit behaved and did that, but I did do a couple readings
for the crew when it was the right time.
I joked if people from the crew wanted a reading, the best
way would be to be stuck with me in the car for a while,
because then it is bound to happenóespecially if we were
alone. One of the girls on our crew wanted to go visit some
family in DC. We had a weekend off and I wanted to go too.
So we took the ride together and it was four hours long, so
I ended up connecting with all her loved ones because it was
just the right time. It did happen a few times, for about
four or five people, but hopefully weíll have a second
season and that will be more of an incentive for them to
come back and work on our show and give a chance to the ones
who didnít have a reading yet.
I also found out something about the crew that I didnít know
until we had our wrap party. On the days where the clients
came over to my home office, we tried to have what we call a
ďskeleton crew.Ē Just the most essential people that have to
be in the room, so there will be less people with Spirit
trying to come through, but also so the clients are more
comfortable. It would just be two cameramen and the audio
guy. I asked them [at the wrap party]: ďWere there ever
times when I was giving readings where the client wouldnít
be able to validate somebody and the messages that were
coming through connected to a particular Spirit, but it did
connect to you guys?Ē Both of the camera guys and the audio
guy said they each had had an experience where someone came
through with a name connection, how they died, how many kids
they had, everything connected was one of their loved ones
and they just didnít tell me and they didnít speak up
because they didnít want to interrupt the reading. So, I was
like ďOh my gosh! How could you guys not have told me?Ē
Because here I was, thinking ďWho the heck is this person?Ē
And it sucks for this client that Iím talking to another
personís loved ones. So, I thought that was really cool that
they still received some healing messages, even though I
didnít know that it was for them and it was something that
they didnít confirm, but they still got the message.
Moderator: Have you ever had any funny Spirits?
Monica: I have funny Spirits all the time. I love Spirits who
come through with their humor and their personality and
especially some of these loved ones that would have been
very witty and have a dry sense of humor or be sarcastic.
They have me just cracking up, giggling and same with their
loved ones [laughs]. There are so many instances that at
least for me and my readings, where you are laughing mid
tears. Youíre wiping away the tears but then they have you
laughing so much that it hurts because theyíre so joyful and
fun, so yes, definitely.
Moderator: If you could guest star on any ABC Family show,
which would it be?
Monica: No question, Pretty Little Liars.
Moderator: Who would you want to play on Pretty Little Liars?
Monica: I think it would be fun to play a medium, but in that
sense it would be fictional, because Monica: the Medium shows
me in my real life, and doing this part would be fun on a
scripted show to do that. Also, I think it would be a good
part to play in Chasing Life. I feel like in some of the
storylines for sure with people being sick. My favorite show
other than Pretty Little Liars is Greyís Anatomy. They could
definitely, with all the people over the years that have
died, they could use a medium on that show.
Moderator: Do you find yourself getting messages everywhere
or are there any specific places where you know that youíll
get messages or feel something coming through?
Monica: For me, it can happen anywhere and everywhere. For
the most part, I do have a bit more control in turning off
the porch lights, as what Iíll jokingly call it. But it is a
lot more likely, even if my lights are turned off, that
maybe a pushy Spirit will still come through even though Iím
trying to stay off the clock. It happens especially in
situations where Iím getting my hair or makeup done, Iím
getting my nails done or Iím getting a massage, things where
people are physically touching me, because theyíre so close
to my energy, Iím so close to theirs. In those instances, a
lot of times, even though I didnít have any intention to, I
end up giving a reading.
Moderator: Does it also happen when youíre sleeping as well
through dreams or nightmares?
Monica: Iíve had interesting dreams my whole life, and ever
since I was a child I was also a lucid dreamer, which is
when you know youíre dreaming and you can kind of control
the dream, but there have been instances where my loved
onesóand this happens to not just me as a medium, but lots
of different people have had experiences like thisówhere you
can have your visitation dreams. Like my grandfather whoís
passed away, heís come to me in a dream before and I
realized that the last time I had a Spirit visitation dream
with him was the day of the anniversary of his passing. I
didnít realize it was the anniversary of his passing until I
checked the calendar, which was really amazing. So, I have
visitation dreams with my own loved ones and one of the ways
that I sense them is through dreams.
Iíll also occasionally, very, very rarely, but occasionally,
have a reading booked the next day and Iíll go to sleep and
Iíll have a dream where somebody connected to one of my
clientís loved ones will come through. Iíll wake up
thinking, ďWho is that Fred who is talking about his three
daughtersÖblah, blah, blahĒ and then Iíll be with one of my
clients that day and itís her daughter and it all connects
to her. So, it definitely has happened before.
Moderator: Do you have any family or friends who are mediums
like yourself or feel that theyíre intuitive?
Monica: I am the only one in my family that is a full blown
medium. I know that on my momís side there has been a great
aunt or one of our grandmothers that would have had actual
dreams before. Loved ones would have passed and they were
just more intuitive, but they were a very conservative
Catholic Hispanic family where you wouldnít ever say that is
medium stuff. They would never acknowledge it that way. I do
have some friends that are mediums that Iíve become friends
with after coming out and looking for people who are like me
and I can relate to. You can relate to them and you have
them as support and they totally get it because they go
through it too.
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